THE GRIEFGLOW MANIFESTO: WHY THIS BLOG?

This blog finds its roots in the losses of my life and my slow, stumbling, but steady path towards healing. Of all the resources I explored when I was newly bereaved and deep in grief, the most powerful ones were those that simply shared someone else's story. The least helpful were those that either tried to fix or change me, or communicated with such mutedness and sadness they seemed to make my own sadness worse. In reacting to such times, I came up with something I called the GriefGlow manifesto, which goes as follows. I am pleased to share it and some glimpses of my journey with you. So, the GriefGlow Manifesto: Because grief is never black and white. Because healing is hard enough without coloring everything around us gray. Because we're just sad, not broken. Because we are a community, even when we feel the most alone. Because a picture is worth a thousand words when we have no words to say. Because we don't need to be changed, fixed, taught, or hurried. Because being vulnerable isn't the same as being powerless. Because our story isn't over. Because the world is as beautiful as it is painful. And because though a little bit of beauty can't change the pain today, it may help us toward healing tomorrow.



Friday, July 23, 2010

NO TRAIN TODAY

I remembered having this photo in my digital archives as I re-read Louise Glück's poem before writing my post on it Wednesday.

The image isn't related to the poem in any literal way, but it's one I like. I found it early in the days of my grieving, and it expressed exactly how I felt: stopped in my tracks, almost literally. The familiar grooves along which my life had run seemed to have disappeared, or at least become impassable; as for the engine, the energy that had always fueled me, it had just stopped cold. I'll stop beating the metaphor over the head now; you get the idea.

I'm glad to say that though it took a lot longer than I could have imagined, my life (and my capacity to live it with zest) are chugging along once more. Patience, as always, was the key...though as I have said before, it's not my best quality (or even my second best). It's hard to trust that curiosity, passion, and energy will come back when you can't see a glimpse of them no matter how hard you stare at the horizon. Yet eventually they do return—and suddenly you have a train expected, arriving, today, this very minute, now.

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